Young love is tough love.
At some point of your teen life, you've probably felt that "strange feeling" while eyeing that cute guy playing on the BBall court or that sexy chick sitting at the corner of a coffee shop (This is ofc, regardless of your sexual orientation)… and then suddenly, you would just think how great it would be if you & your crush were <3
But you see, the problem about young love is that it hardly lasts long because of [REASONS] unless you & your partner are REALLY sincere with each other 120%. Which is, hahaHIGHLY unlikely.
The bad thing about having a relationship with someone is that you either marry them or you break up. While marriage sounds like a magical endgame, it's not. But that's another story.Anyway, the worst case scenario is that the awesome relationship you've always dreamed of with your crush is falling apart in just months after you both went together for whatever petty or serious reason.
And now you, O Broken-hearted One, feel like your world is collapsing because the love of your life just dumped you/replaced you/whichever.
Uh, first of all: NO. NO, it's not the end of your world. and NO, whoever that dick/bitch is-- he/she left you, so apparently he/she ain't for you at the moment, & certainly doesn't deserve your love. AND NO, don't go declaring that you've found the one when you're 16 & unsure of your career. There are still plenty of people you'll meet later on, so don't go suicidin' on one person when you still haven't seen HALF of your life.
BUT WAIT!
It's natural to feel down when these things happen though. Here are the stages that you will be going through unconsciously:
1st: DENIAL
If you initiated the breakup, then skip to the next stage LOL
But if you were the one that was broken up with, well ofc SHOCK will set in. And to cope up with this, a defense mechanism called Denial kicks in. It's a way to cope up with the stress felt.
2nd: ANGER
This is where the PAIN sets in. As your denial wears off, you begin to realise the REALITY that is happening. And you are not ready to accept this. The intense emotion is expressed as anger. This is where you find something or someone to blame.
3rd: BARGAINING
This is the "If Only" part. "If only I didn't do this and that maybe we would still be together <3"
4th: DEPRESSION
Sadness & deep regret, loneliness & longing are the dominant feels here.
5th: ACCEPTANCE
This is a difficult stage to reach but upon reaching it you get +1000 points in Life for finally growing some balls to move on with your life.
Now here are some other tips that may or may not help you in MOVING ON~
HOOK UP with another person. Yes, it's true that moving on will be so much easier & faster if there's another special someone that will help you.
Seems easy if you're a popular person on campus & that there are guys already in line to court you OR you easily found another girl to mend that achey-breaky heart of yours THAT ALSO share the same feelings with you. If this is not your case, there's always your Bestfriend.
EAT whatever satisfies you. It's to cope up with the stress of heartbreak & it certainly helped me a bit. This is where men drown in ALCOHOL to lessen the SWEETNESS & where girls eat a lot of SWEETS in order to get rid of the BITTERNESS. See the neutralising agent here? XD
Abstain from stalking your Ex. If possible, hide (or Block your ex because why the hell not? XD) in your Facebook, Unfollow on Twitter and so on. Remember: OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND. And why mind his/her activities anyway? He/She with a new partner? Well, no shit Sherlock, stop stalking his/her profile. You are hurting yourself. Also, don't bother communicating with him/her-- if they're the ones who broke up with you: chances are Seenzoned or half-baked replies. If you want to go back to square 1 aka the friendship level, be sure to have closure upon breakup. It's better that both of you have a clear & mutual understanding why you had to split. Unless the reason is a third wheel or the like, then good luck with that.
DISTRACT YOURSELF FROM THINKING ABOUT HIM or HER. That would mean engaging yourself in activities that you like to do, like singing or photography, WHATEVER! And be productive with it! Be a useful member of society. LOL
But what if that activity reminds you of your EX? Heck, me & my Ex draw… but I never let that get the better of me, drawing is something I love & I will not let a piece of shit hinder me in my becoming a great artist HENCE I never abstained from drawing. Prove your worth, show them it's their loss. ;)
HANG OUT with a nice group of friends. Perhaps the greatest help in my (75%) Move on is that I had group of people who shouldered me when I was down (Yes, I admit that there is still a part of me that has yet to move on-- the 25% LOL). Go to a Club with them, Have a Food Trip, Go Malling! Just have a great time. And sooner or later, the aches will just fade away… OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND.
Moving On is a long process so don't get bummed out if you can't get over it overnight, especially if you truly loved that person. Don't be hasty with decisions & vent out your frustrations by KILLING
time with your friends. XD
We all have are ways to cope up with this kind of PAIN. I don't know what will work with you guys but hopefully this helped… even if it's only a little bit. hehehe
Oh, and you know what they say: Better to have loved & lost than to never have loved at all. ;)
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